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Hi Rick,
Certainly, I’m up for coaching. Let me know how this would proceed.
Regards,
Paul
Paul,
Step one is to get a free introductory call scheduled. That gives you a chance to interview me, and me a chance to interview you, to find out if we can work well together. If, after that call, we both agree that we’re a good match, I’ll schedule you for your first appointment. I have your email address, so I’ll be in touch soon about setting up a brief conversation.
Best wishes,
Rick
Hi, Dr. Kirschner
My name is Julie Poole and I am a student teacher at Christiansburg High School in Christiansburg, Virginia. In passing, I fell upon your blog and found posts on persuasion to be very interesting and informative. I am currently teaching a unit on persuasion in my 11th grade English classes and am in the process of moving my students from reading the persuasive writers to becoming the persuasive writer. In hopes to connect them to the world around them, their end of the unit task is to create a group persuasive commercial to bring community awareness concerning an issue they feel passionate about. Just like you said, so much can go unseen and unchanged without the correct people or words to persuade an audience to move towards that change – and that is what my students are currently working on.
I was hoping that when it is all said and done that you wouldn’t mind giving my class of 11th graders some feedback on their commercials. We have been discussing persuasive techniques and how to incorporate that into our writing and speech. But, with this particular assignment, I hope for them to gain more than just the technique behind persuasion. I want them to see what they can do with their words and that change is possible.
Once my students have completed their assignment, I hope to upload their work either to their class blog or their wiki. If you are at all interested in becoming a part of this project and helping us out, please let me know!
Thank you for your consideration for I know you are an extremely busy man, but any feedback from you would be greatly appreciated!!
Best,
Julie Poole
poolie07@vt.edu
Hi Dr. Kirschner,
My name is Joel Seah and I happened to chance upon your blog. Found your content on communication skills very interesting. Would it be possible to place a link on your blog to mine? My blog focuses on interpersonal communication skills with NLP and Enneagram.
Yours Sincerely,
Joel Seah
Hello Dr. Rick
Thanks for your kind comments about my column in the Jamaica Observer. Am in the process of re-reading it and hope to share it some more of your valuabel with my readers. Hope one day you would consider doing a workshop in Jamaica.
Peace + Love
Yvonne Grinam Nicholson
Dr. Kirschner:
Thank you for this blog. I myself have been suffering from adult temper tantrums lately. This is highly unusual for me as I work with a mediator and have had enough training to deescalate people who are doing exactly what I’m doing myself. I agree that it stems from a feeling of not being listened to. For example, I was at the eye doctor’s office, despite me telling them both orally and in writing, they lied about receiving my records, blamed their other office, and also tried to give me a drug that could cause a serious drug reaction. I underlined this information on the patient information sheet and told the doctor three times before he got a consult and discovered I had a concern. Otherwise, it was obvious he had not read the patient handout.
This is an extreme example; but it happens frequently. I see people, neighbors, cry in mediation because they have never really talked and listened to each other.
I see a therapist and have changed several times for the same reason. I basically had the doctor issue my own prescriptions by doing a brief literature review. Otherwise, it’s clear his mind is elsewhere during sessions.
At any rate, what bother’s me most is my reaction. I’m Sicilian an come from a family that has a history of high temper to begin with and makes me wonder if part of it isn’t genetic. I’m the calmest of the bunch and no one would guess I have a temper problem while I’m working.
Do you know of any resources in the Las Vegas area that would be worth pursuing? My tantrums level anger can be directly traced to my move here and I’m unable to move at this time. I hate the idea that I have to carry a benzodiazapine with me “just in case”. At any rate, thank you for writing about this.
Hello, and thanks for both your positive feedback and honest disclosure.
When everyone is talking and no one feels heard, the sense of isolation and anger on all sides grows rapidly. We see it happening on a national and international level, in some of the biggest issues of our time. Is it any wonder that our problems persist?
On occasion, I have the thought that if people only listened to each other (really listened), most of our problems could be prevented, and the rest could be easily resolved. It would appear that the human experience is designed so that, unless we help each other out in this way, everything gets increasingly complex all around.
I understand that vulnerable feeling of knowing that your buttons can be pushed and your temper flare in spite of your best intentions. And I understand how it feels after it’s happened. What you’re dealing with is a pattern of habitual behavior, and each time the pattern gets fired off, it is reinforced and more likely to happen again. What’s needed is to break that chain of reaction in yourself, so that instead of being at the effect of circumstances, you can be the architect of change.
I think you would benefit greatly from a combination of counseling and coaching, services I provide over the phone (so distance is irrelevant.) I don’t know of any Las Vegas resources, but if you are so inclined, you can contact me using the contact form on my coaching website, at http://talkwithrick.com and we can set up an appointment.
Best wishes,
Rick