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Life Skills

Dealing With Shame: What’s Right About Feeling Wrong

August 30, 2010

Wrong is nature’s way of telling you that a course correction is in order. The feeling of doing something wrong is a feedback mechanism, a way of signaling to you that you have other choices, new choices, that you can make. You’ll stop feeling shame when you turn anger at yourself or the other person into forgiveness, and then turn the guilt into a commitment.

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On Giving Your Word and Choosing Your Words

August 16, 2010

I know that your future depends not just on what words you use to describe your experience and ideas, but on you giving your word, and keeping your word. And today is always the beginning of tomorrow.

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Fastest Way To End A Conflict When Someone Says You’re Wrong

July 26, 2010

For example, let’s say that I said something which, in spite of my good intentions, somehow offended you. And, just as night follows day, the result is that you accuse me of being offensive. Experience of being in this very situation has taught me that the simplest thing to say is, ‘You’re right. I’ve clearly offended you, and I apologize, because that wasn’t what I intended.”

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Get People Involved Before Making A Decision That Impacts Their Lives

July 12, 2010

I’m an advocate for involvement and engagement before decisions get made. I think that’s how it ought to be in organizations and businesses. People don’t want to hear about the new deal after the fact. They want to hear about it while it is still being thought about. That gives them a chance to talk about it, think about it, and have some say in it. Even if they don’t like the way it turns out, they get their say.

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Albert Einstein and Me – Different Takes on the Meaning of Marriage

May 10, 2010

A successful intimate relationship is one in which respect (self respect and respect for your partner) is more valued than blame, self pity, excuse making and projection; in which being intimate works better than wishing for it from your partner,

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When the World Seems Like It’s Going to Hell in a Handbasket, an Antidote for Negativity

May 3, 2010

When the world seems to be going to hell in a handbasket, you don’t have to go with it. Just fill yourself up with what lifts you up and keep your focus where it is useful. So says bestselling author, speaker, blogger and coach Dr. Rick Kirschner

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If Not Me, Who? If Not Now, When?

April 12, 2010

In this final post of my blog series about getting beyond Us/Them thinking, I’d like to talk about the part we each play in what happens to all of us. The world is my country.  All mankind are my brethren.  To do good is my religion. – Thomas Paine I love that quote.  That’s from [...]

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Them and Us, War and Peace, Now or Never

April 5, 2010

One of my personal heroes, Bucky Fuller, spoke of humanity eventually arriving at the end of the womb of acceptable ignorance, a time when we would be faced with a stark choice. Continue backing into the future by fighting or fleeing from what we don’t want, or turning to face it squarely, realize we will live in the tomorrow we create today, and get busy creating a tomorrow we want to live in.

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